I am surprised by the number of women I speak to who reveal that they feel alone. Words I often hear used are different, separate, isolated, and apart. The irony is that separation is a total illusion, a complete story. We fuel it with our own imagination and stories of why we are "outside the group".
For most of my life I chose to live with this story. I focused on how I was different instead of how I was the same. My attention lingered on "staying safe" and comfortable apart from others. Over the past year, I have begun to take down the illusionary walls and it feels amazing!
It is time for a major revolution in consciousness. What if every woman took it upon herself to be a beacon of welcoming, of cherishing, or nurturing, of generous loving? What if a major goal of your life was to create a feeling of being truly seen, accepted and loved in those people around you? We can start with the those in our families and households. Then our own communities, in our own neighborhoods. Then we can extend out to unknown people we pass on the street. And then even further...
Deliberately seek ways to collapse stories of difference with others. Retrain your brain to seek points of connection. Cultivate a sonar which identifies what is you share in common with anyone you meet. Listen deeply and share from your heart. Become a genius at taking in the gaze of others while breathing deeply and giving your undivided gaze as a gift. Become the source of all the acceptance you seek from others! If all else fails, use your imagination and make up stories of why you do belong, why you are loved and why you are a part of the community!
If you commit to this one change of attitude, you will be amazed at the miracles which unfold!
This rings so true for me also, in the past, and how I now desire to see others from a higher perspective.A wonderful reminder and encouragement. Cheers!
Posted by: Andrew | May 19, 2010 at 05:22 AM